There is no second opinion that FetLife is the most famous kinky social site among the kinksters. People use social media websites to enjoy their time, meet experienced individuals, and find new partners, but it can be dangerous as well. There is a possibility that abusers can use your personal information for negative purposes. There is a lot of stuff regarding the downside of social sites, but this article is not about negativities. In fact, this article is presented to assist you regarding how to survive on kinky social sites, especially FetLife.

Being Honest

At first, you might be surprised that why I put this at the top, but being honest is the key to survive on social media. Don’t try to oversell or undersell yourself because it isn’t going to work on social media. For instance, if you don’t like breath play, then don’t pretend just to improve your impression. It is not going to work for you. Make sure that you are completely honest about yourself and displaying the right image of yours.

Also, one of the most popular lie of social media is trying to fake your age, which is completely wrong thinking. If you are a 50 years old, then don’t behave like a 20 years old guy.

Ensure Your Safety

Since the kinky social sites are open to everyone, you need to stay on the safer side. There can be one of your parents, siblings, teachers, bosses, your exes or maybe your current partners. If you think that being kinky will disturb your vanilla life, then ensure your privacy.

This doesn’t reflect that you can’t enjoy the social sites, but you only need to be a little careful while posting your nude pictures. Use your mind while uploading the pictures.

In the same way, you need to maintain your profile perfectly. If you don’t want to let your boss know about your presence then avoid mentioning your job.

Make a Profile that is you

Filling your profile according to your real personality improves the chances of getting the right partner online. Begin with explaining yourself or what you like to display about you. Add your background, experiences, expectations and what kind of people you like to respond to. This will provide the viewers an exact image of yours, so they will only contact if they feel interested.

Let’s Start the Lurking

If you are someone new to this lifestyle then you might need to sit back and get some information before going ahead.

When I am talking about the “lurk” it doesn’t mean opening a profile and liking every picture that displays the boobs. This is not worthy at all. Try to become a member of some groups and take some time to research. If you have a question that is never answered in the group, then it is the perfect time to ask it and improve your communication with others.

Keep Learning

There is no certain way to enjoy the BDSM. BDSM do have some certain rules, but you can share your thoughts with one or more than one persons to get their opinions as well. There is no such expert, we need to keep learning.

Create Your Boundaries

At first, make sure that you have created your boundaries and then stick to them at every cost. For instance, if you don’t want to see any random friendship requests, say that on you profile and just deny the request if you ever have a random one.

There is no need to change your boundaries unless you feel that it is seriously required. Just decide your criteria for chatting, invites, posts, and then stick to them.

Respect Other’s Boundaries

This seems to be the hardest task for many people. As I have mentioned on my profile that I don’t like to have any random friend requests, but people still keep sending me the requests. I always reject those requests and people often call be a bitch. I have mentioned my boundaries very clearly, but they don’t like to respect them.

Having the boundaries doesn’t reflect that this is a bad person. Boundaries are only displayed to tell others that I am not comfortable with such particular things. Don’t you think that if a person can’t respect my boundary that how can he respect me? That’s why always respect other’s boundaries to leave a positive message about you.