Being a dominant is not as easy as you might imagine from the outside. It can be challenging if you don’t have complete knowledge about this lifestyle. There are some wrong perceptions about the role of dominant like your only job is beating your sub and she will follow you, no matter what you says. From one side, it is true. But, first you have to earn it through showing your commitment and completing your responsibilities.

In this article, you will find out some of the complications you might face during the initial phase of your relationship. The article will also explain what is true and what is wrong, since there are a lot of wrong perceptions about the BDSM lifestyles. Let’s take a look below:

“Beating” is not the only thing

When it comes to beating, you can teach any idiot how to use a stick or flogger. If someone allowed you and you can kick their ass, it doesn’t mean that you have become a dominant. Actually, you are a top and there is nothing wrong with being a top, but a top is not always a Dom.

Being a Dominant requires much more than only getting engaged in a play. So, at the very first, you need to clear this thing in your mind.

Everyone Make Mistakes

Mistakes are common with everyone; it is a fact of life. As a new Dom, new person to this lifestyle, you will make some mistakes. In fact, intermediate and experienced Doms also make mistakes. All you need to do is, accept and move on.

The only thing you need to ensure is that you learn from your mistakes and don’t repeat them again and again. Also, if you have done something very serious, don’t hesitate to say “sorry” to your partner even if you are a Dom.

Don’t Try to Copy Everyone

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For instance, you were invited to a private party where you saw various people doing numerous acts. While watching those acts, you imagined that you can do it as well because they are doing it easily. It’s a wrong approach. They are doing it easily because they are doing it for a long time and they have some experience of it.

So, when you see something new and you want to copy it, ensure that you can do it. Meet the person who was doing that act and have some tips. Still, ensure the safety measure while to try to perform that act on your own.

Real Dominants Get Involved in Oral Sex

The concept that Doms do not get involved in an oral play is the worst idea spread by few idiots. The fact is that Dominants do like to eat pussies and even they get their mouth up the ass too.

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Eating a pussy or sucking a cock is not something that defines a Dom, so clear the mind and eat it if you like. In fact, you should because your partner is going to love it.

Don’t Measure Yourself by Someone Else

Develop your own style and enjoy your life in a better manner. You have to do something that makes you happy and your partner as well. Don’t do things just because others are doing that or you find it cool. If it is not for you, just leave it. In the BDSM world, you have a complete choice regarding what to do and what to avoid.

You are not everyone’s Dominant

Everyone is not going to call you a master or Sir while kissing your boots and letting you slap on their ass. Just because you see yourself as a Dom doesn’t mean every other person will. While treating your submissive, make sure that you maintain the respect and consideration. Don’t get too rough right from the start. In this way, you might be asking them to change their mind.

Always Keep Learning

Always remember that no one can learn everything. Never think that you have learned all about the D/s relations and now you don’t need to learn anything else. Whenever you go to gathering, a private play, or a BDSM party, try to talk to people and learn something.

The more you learn, the better you perform with your partner. Learning is the only trick that maintains a relation for long time.

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