When it comes to “training a submissive,” some people take it as disrespect of the person, like training an animal. Without any doubt, a slave or submissive is not an animal.

Unfortunately, people take this phrase “training a submissive” in a negative manner. This ‘training’ is more likely the preparation of a particular job. It is very similar to the training you receive in your office to work in a better manner.

The purpose of training is to ensure that you and the company are on the same page. The training ensures that you learn the right way to do your job. Also, it provides you an idea that what is expected from you during the job. Well, now you might have a better idea what training actually means in BDSM.

In BDSM world, some of the people also use the phrase “breaking a submissive or slave” for training. Women are quite similar to horses as they are beautiful, fierce and wild when unbroken. Similar to horses, you need to train your submissive to perform as per your demands.

In a simple sense, training is a type of education or learning. When your Dom tells you to ensure that you bring a coffee to his bed every morning, it is also training. He might ask you to soap him down each night before getting to bed and you need to practice it. When training goes a little further, he can ask you to bend over for the anal sex (for submissives who doesn’t feel interested in anal). Similarly, there can be any other thing that you might consider as a limit, but your Dom or owner wants you to do it.

Here is a good example of training:

Let’s suppose that you Dom want a complete silence while having the anal sex, but you just can’t keep your voice low. Similarly, he might want you to take punishments without speaking, moving, or crying, but it is your natural behavior to start crying or arguing before taking any punishment. Now, he has to train you and make you behave like he prefers.

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If the Dom has a liking on how to cook, how to dress, how to sit, or other things, that is training as well. Training is basically adapting in a new environment as per the demands of your Master.

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For Dominants and Masters, it’s vital to remember that you are not creating a new human being. You shouldn’t try to wipe out the actual personality of your slave or submissive. Your ultimate goal should be improving your slave’s personality through promoting positive behaviors while eliminating the negative ones.

For example, if your submissive is more of a talky person, you shouldn’t make her keep the mouth shut all the time like a mindless person. Instead, you should teach her when to speak freely and when to watch out before speaking anything. In this way, both of you can enjoy your time with each other.

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At the end, there are thousands of Sub-training programs available on the internet. You can use one of them if you are not able to make your own training program. Before applying any training program, you should make few amendments as per your desires and requirements. Why make changes? Because there is absolutely no point in learning things that you don’t care about.

It is very important to note that both of you needs to show interest in training. While deciding a training program, it is better to decide a time limit for each goal. There can be rewards or punishments for a successful training or failure.

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