My wife and I have been married for 5 years and have 2 kids together. She used to be a dom in the past but not in a serious relationship. After pushing this side of her deep down, we have finally started to experiment. I’ve always wanted to be rough in bed together and we have been starting a top/bottom situation. Here’s the thing…she wants to be a dom, I want to be a sub (more than willingly!) but she can’t take that next step. She feels ashamed for wanting yo hurt me, dominate me. She will hate herself to think let alone act of these impulses. I’m wondering if anyone has dealt with this and overcame it?