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Hello,

I hope that what follows chimes with at least one other kindred spirit. These words are an honest and frank statement of my situation, aspirations and dreams.

My name is David and I am a 57-year old man (*thinks* as I type, how many people have I already lost with that opener?) already in a stable and ‘happy’ relationship. I live a normal life; I work, walk the dog, enjoy cooking and exercise etc. Whilst I’m at the formality stage: I am six feet tall, white, middle class, educated, slim, good looking. I exercise every day and stay in good shape. I have brown eyes, and the easy smile of a good, honest person. I do NOT wish to end my current relationship, I am NOT looking for a romance or change of circumstances. But … I am trapped in a largely sexless existence. I cannot tell you that I have the blessing of my partner in writing this, but I can tell you that she would understand my reasons.  I  may be wrong, I may be right, but I am being honest with you about my situation.

I have led an active and varied sex life for most of my adulthood. However, for reasons that I won’t bore you with, for the last three years my partner has lost her drive and prefers to live a different life in this respect — she enjoys life without sex. This is not to say that over the years we have not been active, there is nothing I can think of that we have not done (or at least experimented with). For many years we indulged in a strong and deep Dom/Sub lifestyle. This was initiated by me (having been introduced to this ‘dark side’ early in my twenties). During this time I we both gained a lot from these experiences — for me they have largely shaped my sexual outlook. I have had many Dom/Sub encounters/relationships over the years before my current relationship (and I must tell you) during — in all, I have been active in this lifestyle for over thirty years.

Without going into too much detail at this point, my early experience (alluded to above) came about through an over friendly neighbour where I lived as a teenager. The ‘kind’ lady in question happened to wear a long leather coat as an everyday item of apparel, together with high heels etc. You get the picture probably — an adolescent’s dream neighbour. So … her advances (and my first complete sexual experience) became inextricably linked with the sensations (touch, smell, sound) of leather. Without being aware of the journey on which I had already embarked upon, over the years, this obsession, or fetish, developed into a passion for the ‘obedient’ woman, the woman who craved control and who was happy to go along my fantasies that go with this. Soon, sexy leather and PVC clothing became a means to an end, in that this style of clothing is the hallmark of the Dom/Sub lifestyle. Since then (and still trying to be brief) bondage and correction have become an integral aspect of my practice and desires. So … collars, plugs, chains, rope all play a part. I enjoy the thrill of ‘you’ being the willing object of my control — that you dress, behave, walk and talk in a way that you understand pleases me, that you are equally aroused by being controlled, inspected, restricted, treated as an object etc. I enjoy role play, and online control. If, I have struck a chord in any way, so much could follow from this coming together of minds.

As an aside — and by way of giving some more of me. I have, over the years, enjoyed taking pictures of various of my partners in submissive roles. Unless they have consented, I have never revealed their identities or locations etc., but I do get a kick out of this aspect of the scene — a visual record that I can return to has been my lifeline for the last few years.

I don’t really care about your age — as long as you are ‘legal’ and of an age that you are still sexually minded. It would, of course, be nice if there is mutual attraction. I have some thoughts on what you might be like, both in terms of body shape, looks, and intellect (in no particular order), but that is for another time.

I want to make a connection with someone as I feel increasingly frustrated that my active imagination and desires are wasted entities, and because of this I feel that I should be allowed to follow my destiny. For me, talking to someone with a similar tale, and similar desires is the key. It does not follow that we ‘must’ or ‘should’ achieve a physical meeting, or even if we do, that sex should necessarily play a part. Rather, I would like the process of conversation and openness to dictate our progression — who knows what might come of it. We won’t know unless we try.

If you don’t like my profile, or disagree with my approach please don’t be hard and spoil things with harsh words. In the words of Yeats: “I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.”

I am genuine in my quest to find some happiness and fulfilment with a person or persons of similar mind. You may be female, TG, TV, old or young — please do get in touch if you are at all inclined.

There is so much I have not said — so much more to tell. One, final thing: I don’t feel ready to commit to photo sharing my identity just yet, if you are not happy with this I must take the hit, but I would like to let our words take us on the beginning part of this journey, there is plenty of time for things to unfold if we hit it off. In the meantime, I have presented an old and grainy image in order to get passed the profile rules.

Best wishes,

David M