Nowadays, a lot of people start their relationships online via forums or social media platforms. Finding a person online and having a daily chat makes you close and you start caring for each other. Once you spent enough time with each other and built some trust, you decided to meet physically. Now, what do you expect when you meet physically? Both lives are completely different from each other.

Being online is almost safe with no risk at all. It is completely okay to do some things online that need a lot of trust in real life. But, you need to be very careful when it comes to real life because anybody can be evil in no time.

First of all, you need to make your possible partner feel completely secure while she is with you. She is the person you are meeting for the very first time and she might be confused whether to trust you or not. She doesn’t take you as a murderer, but there is a doubt in her mind regarding her security. She might have asked someone to maintain a check on her while she is around you.

While setting the real meeting, ensure her that you are not going to talk about the power exchange. Since you are meeting for the first time, you should bring some flowers, chocolates or any else gift for her. Don’t forget to be in manner while you are sitting with her. In fewer words, be a respective companion.

During the first meeting, she might call you “Sir” like she is used to talk online with you. But, you need to correct her gently. I can understand how hard it is to control, but you need to control your inside at every cost. Let yourself know that you are meeting for the first time and there is some time in the real play.

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No matter, she traveled hundreds of mile to meet you or came from the next street, the rules will be the same. Even, if you decided to meet for a little time, you need to use it to create a long term relationship if you want to convert your online relation into a real one. If you want to make a long term relation, you need to go slow. Don’t think that you or she has spent a lot of money on this trip; actually you need to keep in mind that it is up to the Dom to control the situation.

Okay, you are done on the table and you are going to spend the night together. What’s next? If you have done everything as mentioned above, she has relaxed probably and started feeling safe with you. Now, it is the time to decide about the night.

Let’s suppose, she wants you to take the role that you have performed online. She is willing to do anything you want her to do. Now, she is feeling safe and wants to try the next stage. During the play, you don’t need to order to do certain things. Also, there is no need to correct her instantly. You need to wait and give her some time to get settled rather than disturbing her emotions on the very first day.

When you get into the room, she might feel a little nervous. You need to hold her hand and keep holding it to give her some confidence. The plan is to sit together and have some chit chat. Don’t rush, it might take few hours, but let her be relaxed. When she wants to move on, you will feel the softness in her eyes. This is the time to kiss her on the lips. Now, the things should happen smoothly.

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Most probably, she will allow you to undress her fully. Once she allows you to undress her, it means she is ready. If she decided to move on to the next stage, you will notice that she has started calling you Sir or Master and that’s all what you wanted. Now, you can take the things where you want to take it.

The point is to establish a long-term D/s relationship with this person rather than one-night relation. Keep the pace slow and you will get all the things you want her to do for you. In fact, she might be willing to give you even more than your demands. But, it requires time, self-control, affection, care, and trust.

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