When you just start out in Dominance, one of the most confusing things you might face is the concept of punishment versus “Funishment.”

It’s true that submissive or slave likes to follow the rules and regulations, and they have punishments when they break those rules. But, they also want to be spanked for fun, Discipline for dun, flogged for fun. Well, then, is that really a punishment?

It is important to understand the difference and utilize both of them when it is required. Let’s take a look below and have some important tools in your “Dominant toolbag.”

Punishment

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Punishment is a training measure. Punishment is applied when a person break the rule that was clearly spelled out. For example, you noticed that your submissive look more beautiful and confident while she wears a makeup. And, you made a rule that she has to wear makeup at every cost before leaving the house and you clearly tell her. Now, if she break the, you can punish her as you like.

Punishment shouldn’t be given if you haven’t provided the message clearly or there was some kind of confusion. Also, punishment should fit the crime. A good dominant always keep his/her words like if you said that there will be a punishment then give it. If you allow things to slide too often, it will give a negative message that you don’t care about the rules.

But, what is the purpose of spanking her ass as a punishment if she loves it? Actually, you need to be a little creative and punish in a way that force her or him to follow your rules in the future.

Here are some possible punishments for the above makeup example:

1. Don’t let her attend a party with makeup that she normally always do. Ask her to attend that particular party without wearing any makeup.
2. Plan a special party and make her dress well, nice haircut, matching accessories, but with a bare face.
3. Lock her in the bathroom with hundred tutorials of makeup and tell her that you will unlock when she is done with all the tutorials.
4. When you see her in public with a bare face, ask her to take a picture immediately and then upload it onto her favorite social media website. Make sure that she don’t use any filters or make special poses.

Funishment (Fun-ishment)

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In simple words, Funishment can be defined as play. Sure! It is a different type of play. It doesn’t look like what the most people consider a play. It is a kind of fake punishment that helps both the Dominant and Submissive in getting turned on.

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When you know that your sub likes to get spanked over the knee, you can create a “Funishment” that revolves around the spanking. A proper and effective Funishment is something both the partner enjoys. Of course, there can be a certain role playing but there is no behavior modification. You are not teaching any particular lesson.

Sometimes, you see that some members of the BDSM community take the phrase “Funishment” as a disgust thing. It happens because of the misconceptions and wrong use of this phrase. When you have a submissive who is ready to face any punishment, in fact she insist for the punishments, but she is not ready for a SM play, it results in a divide in communication.

Obviously, the most appropriate solution is the honest communication, lots of discussions and education. But, it is entirely up to you and your submissive that whether Funishment is a good thing or not.

If you want to make her bend over the knees and make her ass red to straighten her out, do it. In this relationship, you are in the charge and you are allowed to do what you find exciting for both of you.

At the end, Funishment is something that encourages a certain behavior while Punishment is enforced to stop misbehavior.