Being a submissive, the ‘D’ in BDSM, discipline is my most favorite activity, but it wasn’t always up to the mark. The major reason was I dated those who were just a pussy to hit me and few were those who just wanted to hit me wherever they can. Both attitudes are not acceptable in the BDSM world.

In the start, I didn’t like spanking at all; I had more interest in biting and pinching. Now, when I met to a trustworthy Dom, I experimented on different areas of BDSM and I loved the most of it except few things.

If you are someone who is curious to know what are the best parts to bite, spank and hit during a play, then you can have come to the very right place. In this article, you will get tips from an experienced submissive who know exactly how it feels.

Spanking

Mostly, spanking is done on the upper thighs and buttocks. Since these are meatier parts of the body, you can hit really hard with a flat palm, gloves, or with any object. Try gloves made with different type of stuff and make different touches like a pinch, rubbing your nails, ass grab, and whatever feels right to you.

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Some of the people just need the periodic spanking to feel the enjoyment while some want to get spanked very seriously; they want to get the feeling of humiliation. For that, you might need to pull their ass on your lap and spank until it gets red. If the sub is a woman, bending her over your knee and spanking seriously can trigger the tightening in her clit, which is an awesome feeling. Spanking offers a wonderful sexual pleasure, do it often and enjoy!

Hitting

I wasn’t open for hitting in the very start because it felt like a very serious physical abuse to me. Later, I learned that hitting can add a lot of enjoyment to your life and it feels great to me. When I become comfortable with this, I crave for getting slapped as my Dom gets back to home.

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I recommend an open palm hitting as compared to a closed fist until both the partner get comfortable with it. A closed fist can cause serious damage if you are new to hitting.

In the start, I like light slapping across my face and then hard slapping when we get wild and I am fully turned on. My Dom told me once that he loves the look of complete shock when I get slapped.

Slapping is really enjoyable, but it should be avoided if the mouth of the next person is open as it can damage the jaw. Slap on both cheeks to make them look even.

Biting

Biting is one of my most preferred activity! For me, nothing is sexier than being nibbled or bitten by your partner. Nipples are the most favorite part of the mind where I want to feel the teeth of my Dom. Nibbling feels great on most of the parts like nipples, chest, arms, thighs, ears, etc.

When you have a desire of hard biting, you need to look for a meatier part of the body. If you bite hard on a bony area, it will cause serious pain, which doesn’t turn into pleasure.

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Since my thighs and genitals are very sensitive, so a big NO for thighs and sexual parts.

To make it even sexier, you can make your partner lay on their chest and bite on the back of their neck like most of the mammals do while having sex. The purpose of their biting is to keep their mate still and show their power to them. This idea delights me and I love it whenever my partner does this to me.

At the end, it is very important to have proper communication between you and your partner before you practice any of the above. Communicate, spank the ass, bite the nipples, hit the face, and have a great time!

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