Thanks for the reply Ally. I hear you about the other situation that ended I had actually considered that myself to be honest, I can understand why they did release them its a long hard road to rebuild that trust and I dont know you can ever get that back totally and it may be easier to just move on, time will tell on how it works out in our case but she is a good girl and worth a little bit of effort, its not even that she slept with another guy that bothers me at all just that our rules were broken,she totally understands the mistake she made and I have banned her from other guys for 12 months as well and now she is only allowed to be used by other women a punisment she has agreed to.