When it comes to the BDSM world, there is always more room to explore. Mostly, when people come into the D/s relationships, they only know few basic things about this lifestyle and they feel attraction towards it. But, when you adopt this lifestyle completely, you realize that this is a whole new world where you can enjoy your life in a better manner.

With the passage of time, you get familiar with new ways of getting pleasure out of life. During the community events, you meet with experienced fellows and learn new things about BDSM lifestyle. Now, you might want to apply some of them in your relationship, but you are confused regarding how to convince your partner.

Well, your problem will be solved once you finish reading this article. This article is all about how to present your new kind desires in front of your partner. Let’s begin from the start:

Few Things to Consider Before Talking to Your Partner

First of all, you need to reconsider your desires and ensure that you really want it. Sometimes, you start loving an idea when you hear it from someone else, but then you realize that it is not for you. Recall your decided limits and think whether you are asking something within the limits or not.

Sometimes, you come up with a whole new idea and think that you should try it, but you have no idea how things go once you start the play. In that situation, you need to ensure that your idea is safe and there is no chance of physical or mental abuse. Also, it is better to talk to an experienced person before trying a new thing.

Once you are satisfied with these things, now you are ready to talk to your partner.

Plan an Erotic Meeting & Talk

No matter if you are living together or separately, you need to arrange an erotic date, which starts with the dinner and then things goes on. During the dinner, don’t look like a nervous person who is worried for something. Remember that both of you are partners to each other and it’s okay to desire something new from your partner.

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Later, when both of you had a happy time with each other, it is the time to talk! Now, your partner is in relax and comfortable mood, he or she will listen to you in a better manner. Speak about your desires and ask him to think about it, that’s all. Don’t try to enforce or argue if they refuse your ideas. There is a lot of time in future when you can talk again, and they might not refuse at that time.

How to Talk? Keep it Simple

Now, you have learned the plan, but how to initiate the actual topic? Well, you better start the chat on a lighter note like talk about your latest trip to the community. Once you have got the attention, you can tell them how many people told you that they have tried new things. Try to give a couple of examples as well.

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Now, you can begin with a question like ‘why don’t we start something new? I have a very powerful desire, but I think you won’t be convinced’, etc. Now, they should ask what the desire is, and then you explain your things. Keep it simple; don’t try to present your desires in a dangerous manner. Also, try to add something of their interest to convince them easily.

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